How to approach a woman doesn’t have to be a spine chilling experience. Interacting and or approaching a woman in any given context could be described as a fine art that revolves between assertiveness, courtesy and observation.
It’s not about being smooth or even all that technical, it’s about being genuine and patient and being aware of the context. So here is how you can learn how to approach women easily and leave a good first impression.
Timing is Everything- These are the objectives while Gauging the Setting:-
The first criteria that one has to determine before approaching a woman is environment. Is she talking to someone, reading or appears to be very busy which may make one not approach her? Visiting is somehow perceived as an intrusion especially when it is done at an ill-timed day.
When looking for opportunities on how to approach a woman or to engage her, it is useful to select periods that she can be enticed into social interactions such as waiting in a line to order coffee, window shopping or sitting calmly at a bar with alcoholic beverages. This means that you should be able to identify those signs that will show that she is willing to engage in some form of a conversation and not involved with self.
How to Approach a woman — Go Ahead—But Do Not Overdo It:-
Confidence is good, but over confidence is lethal as they say that pride goes before the fall. First of all, one should try to avoid complacency and expressing oneself through one’s body: relax the muscles and keep the limbs free of any restraints or tensions.
Instead of charging at her with the sword straight and eye to eye with her, go at her from her blind spot. This decreases the element of hostility and conflict in the interaction and instead makes it appear more like a process that naturally happens.
That’s why it is recommended to have your hands uncovered and not crossed, which means you should not have your hands in your pockets. Flashing her a smile is another great way to start coupled with that calm posture so as to make her feel at ease.
Don’t Start Too Big Begin with Simple Jokes:-
This is not to say that your opener has to be earth shattering. When it comes to effecting an ice-breaking action, a light, situation oriented remark does the trick. For instance, if you are in a café you could joke with your partner by telling him or her, “We are waiting for the barista to win the coffee Olympics aren’t we?” and then laugh.
This gives her the chance to either laugh or answer without the pressure that comes with it. It’s a much more efficient idea to utter a quick, proper, friendly comment that has something to do with something going on as opposed to a scripted line.
It is still more important to listen and answer rather than to just talk and speak:-
Pretty much like in any form of communication, after opening up the topic for discussion is, the next logical step will be to listen. This way you will be asking her questions which will get her to tell you something about herself.
Such a question include; for example, “What brings you here today?” or “Do you come to this café often?” are rather general and by answering them she will not be confined. When she is talking, listen—this means that do not interrupt her and try not to make it seem like you are only interested in her to get a word in edgeways.
Gauge Her Interest:-
Below are some tips that will help to understand her: Focus on her non-verbal communication. What expressions are important for kids, is she smiling, is she making eye contact? Smiling? Leaning slightly toward you?
All of these are indicators that she is activated in the conversation and is also interested in it. However, if she is responding in short words, looking at other areas very often, or looking at her mobile phone, then it would be good to leave.
It is important that you are always able to read her interest so that both of your feel at ease every time you engage in the interaction.
Use Humor (Carefully):-
Most of the time, humor can bring good spirit around, but it has to be done with caution. The thought provoking jokes should be avoided and instead situational jokes only.
They do not want you to be a stand up comedian—just being able to make a funny quip about the environment makes the process easier. Otherwise, it is better not to forget that it is necessary to write all the message politely and does not contain anything which may be regarded as an offense or arrogance.
Know When to End the Conversation:-
The last piece of advice to be given when dealing with people is that one needs to learn how to get off the phone it is so important to know when to end a conversation.
It may also be helpful to know when to end the conversation even if the conversation is good and flowing well. It is always good to wrap up the conversation on a positive note and this always offers a chance to continue with the interaction in the future.
A proper way to let her off the hook is by saying something like, “It has been nice for me to have the chance to chat with you — do you think that sometime we can go for coffee”?
If she is interested she will take the offer positively and if she is not interested then at least you have to let the conversation end discreetly without having to continue being harsh with each other.
Final Thoughts:-
Talk to a woman, I mean it is about appreciating the context, and being truthful while avoiding any form of invasion or intrusion. There is no easy way to engage with people and there is no tactic to employ but through being considerate and smart the chances of having a proper and fruitful interaction will greatly rise.
Everyone loves to be well timed but more importantly ensure that you are respect her time and she is comfortable with everything that you are doing.
You will realize that the exercises used help in making the process of approaching women in various settings less stressful for both of you!
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